L.O.V.E. ? ? aRe yOu sUre???

Hmmm...something which can make u realise about love... and try to learn from it..

Somebody told me that 'Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong... it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there.. you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you.. and don't rush things.. coz somewhere somehow GOD is preparing somebody for you.'

You can never be perfect.. the person you love can never be perfect.. but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without GOD.. that's why we have marriage it's a bond not only between you and your loved one.. but also with GOD.

Our relationships fail not because she/he's not the right person..it's because we expect too much and we decided on our own.. let GOD do the work..you may call it waiting.. pray. Let GOD guide you always... He knows better. He knows best.

Love is not what you think it is.. Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we're in love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us.

We say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD i have ever received.. "After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "You are the biggest mistake i've ever made for my entire life..!!!. "Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E ? Are you really deeply into it?

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc. "would end up "Never" and "We should part ways, I'm no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!". Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree "She/He ain't the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come."

But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time?" That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist taht you are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.

You're right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there is a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you alredy knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.

It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention.

Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.

We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it's just pity. We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past.

We are mistaken, it's just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.................

courtesy of Shabiroh.. a friend of mind.

komentar berlari ke langit

agak kelewatan menonton filem karya badar ini disebabkan kesebokan dlm keperibadian duniawi tapi setelah menonton dan menilai filem ini, tidak keterlaluan andai dapat dijustifikasikan filem ini antara yang senang ditonton lantaran plot dan jalan ceritanya yang sarat dgn metafora dlm menyampaikan pengertian bersirat. filem berlari ke langit satu kesah yg melankoli dan cinematografinya membangkitkan satu emosi yang merudum. pemilihan fasha sanda sebagai heroin merupakan pilihan yg betul pada wajah tapi kurang tepat pula pada penghayatan. fasha mampu menghidupkan yang lebih baik sekiranya diberi masa dan tunjuk ajar. watak yasmin seharusnya diisi dgn penuh kemas agar kelembutannya lebeh terserlah dan tertanam dlm hati penonton. rosyam maseh lagi dgn karismanya sebagai pelakon yg berkaliber, tapi watak thambi yg didokong oleh saiful apek agak canggung utk ditonton sebagai anak perkahwinan campur. kurang enaknya plot cerita ini apabila watak bukhari sebagai pemuda tabligh yang agak konservatif ditancapkan dlm filem ini. dialog bukhari dan rakan rakan tablighnya agak sinis dan mengundang rasa yang kurang enak ditokok dgn adegan bukhari saling bertelingkah dgn yasmin tentang agama. namun itu hakikat di realiti walaupun agak keberatan. badar berjaya mendamaikan situasi ini ketika plot bukhari dinasihati oleh gurunya yang sedang beriringan berjalan ke masjid. justeru plot ini menyenangkan krisis di awal tadi. adegan iman yg bersekolah di kuala lumpur dan juga ketika dia jatoh dari bangunan tanpa kelihatan darah (kecuali pada hidung) juga agak canggung. walau hal demikian kecil tapi besar kesannya. emosi melankoli dlm filem ini tersusun dgn gelombang yang tenteram dan mendamaikan. (terimbau kenangan silam ketika menonton plot plot di jln raja laut, sultan ismail dan di sekitar bandaraya di mana tempat tempat itu menjadi sebahagian dari kesah hidop utk sekian waktu...)

komentar buai laju laju (BLL)

u wei shaari, satu name yg kuat dan langsong teringat pada hishamuddin rais. karya yang signifikan dan penoh emosi. BLL mungkin kurang mendpt sambutan kerna ditutupi dgn promosi gah PGL, namun bukan salah PGL berpromosi sedemikian. agak kaget juga utk memberi komentar karya u wei. BLL didokong emosi yg hampir sama dgn 'isteri, perempuan dan jalang', u wei maseh lagi mempersoalkan dudok diam watak seksualiti dan feminisme dlm masyarakat yg jika dilihat sehingga ke hari ini teros sahaja dibelenggu konflik, etik dan agama. u wei menyampaikan pengaroh seksualiti dlm BLL meski agak canggong menonton adegan sedemikian dlm karya tempatan tapi u wei berjaya menyampaikan apa yg patot disampaikan tanpa melibatkan adegan yg bakal dicantas oleh LPF. kurangnye karya u wei pada kali ini jika dibandingkan dgn jogho dll mungkin terletak pada jln dan temanya. bagai sudah diduga, BLL masih lagi stereotype dgn watak u-wei yg kritis tapi beliau buat apa yg perlu dibuat yakni teros sahaja menyampai ape yg perlu dirasa atau difikir oleh masyarakat. masyarakat rata rata masih belom mampu menerima karya tempatan yg kritikal. kepada u wei, kami maseh dahaga kan karya anda...

komentar puteri gunung ledang (PGL)

tidak perlu melebarkan komen tentang sinopsis PGL yg telah sedia maklom. rata rata org kebanyakan menilai PGL sebagai sebuah titik tolak evolusi filem malaysia, namun org kebayakan juga menilai PGL sebagai karya yg berantakan justeru tindak tanduk pengarahnya (mamat khalid) kurang peka dengan plot demak menyerang majapahit yg secara halusnya mendefinisikan Islam sebagai ekstrimis. Org kebanyakan langsung sahaja membelik belik sejarah untuk menunjangkan perjuangan mereka.

perlu diingat bahawasanya wayang PGL itu sendiri (versi mamatkhalid & sawteonghin) telah merombak mitos puteri itu. puteri yg asalnya menetap di gunung mahligai tidak pernah mencintai tuah. karna tuah pada ketika itu sudah agak tua utk mencintai puteri gunung ledang (ya mmg benar cinta itu tidak membenci usia). tuah melalui ufukan zamannya dari kisah taming sari ke kisah amukan jebat ke kisah tun teja, ke kisah hang li po (tuah juga melayu pertama yg berjaya melihat wajah maharaja cina dgn peristiwa kangkung) hinggalah ke kisah puteri gunung ledang. tuah ketika peristiwa pinangan sultan mahmud dianjak usia dan tidak lah segagah tuah veris mamatkhalid & sawteonghin.

puteri gunung ledang pernah mengahwini Putera Gunung Rundok dan secara tidak sengaja telah membunuh suaminya dalam satu peristiwa yg memilukan dan bersumpah tidak akan mengahwini yg lain.

org kebanyakan dan org filem seharusnya menyemak dan meneliti semula apa yang dirasa dan apa yg diperjuangkan agar nanti tidak keliru memartabatkan ilmu sendiri.

"Di antara pertemuan malam dan siang, tergoreslah hati kaseh tak sampai; kupeluk kenangan membujuk hati, patah tumbuh hilang berganti" (Usman Awang 1954)

CREATING GOOD LOVE STORY

Practise good communication:
Communication skills include considering the part you play,
trying not to be defensive and seeing the issue from your
partner's perspective.

Make time for each other:
Have regular dates, have fun together, and take every
oppurtunity to be affectionate.

Acknowledge the big and the little things:
People want to be seen. They want their actions, attitudes,
feeling and aspirations to be noticed and acknowledged.
Become a person who notices.

Take active interest:
Take a real interest in the things that are important.
Listen and have a conversation about the topic. It will make
them feel understood and important.